Some women find asking for what they want really difficult. I know I was one of them. I would hint at what I want but not ask, and hope someone can guess. Or I would say things like “it’s cold in here isn’t it” when what I really wanted to ask was “can you shut the window please”.
It is frustrating not being able to ask for what you want and there are a series of things I did to help me overcome my inability to ask and really go out there and just tell people exactly what it is I want every time.
I have shared what those things are in this eBook.
Click the link to get hold of your own copy. In the meantime I thought I would share 10 tips on how to build self confidence and ask for what you want.
Nothing is more empowering than being able to ask – whether you receive a YES or a NO. It is the inability to even ask that is the most frustrating thing of all.
These are all tips taken directly from the eBook that I am sharing below:
“51 tips on how to ask for what you want and get it every time!”
Think about why you hate asking. You need to identify why the thought of asking fills you with dread. Write down some of the reasons you hate to ask. Is it because you hate the thought of rejection? See tip 4!
Control your “already know the answer” thinking. Sometimes we believe we already know what is going to happen. We already know that this person will say NO or that they won’t want to help you. Stop trying to second guess what people will/will not do because you never know until it happens.
Ask yourself why you can’t ask. It’s the easiest thing in the world to do. Before you go to bed and when you wake up in the morning just ask “Why do I find asking for what I want so difficult?” and allow your mind to provide you with the answer.
Build your network. Spend time building your personal and professional networks so that when you have to ask for someone you have different people you can approach. That way if one says no you can go ahead and ask another.
Take responsibility for your results. If you didn’t get the answer you wanted take a look at what you said and how. Did you get your meaning across or was there anything you could have done differently? If you didn’t get the result you wanted don’t blame the other person but instead empower yourself by taking responsibility for it and look at what the cause might have been.